What men really fear and why

 
 

This week’s show is with Kenny Mammarella-D’Cruz. Kenny was called “The Man Whisperer” by Newsweek because, not only does he help men achieve their life, relationship and career goals, he also helps men to be more authentically and powerfully who they truly are.

As one of the UK’s leading men’s personal development consultants, Kenny runs workshops and sees individuals and couples for private consultations and has been running men’s groups in London for 14 years. Kenny was traumatised at the age of seven when his family had to flee certain death at the hands of the brutal dictator Idi Amin and were resettled as refugees in rural Wales via refugee camps. As a result of post-traumatic stress syndrome, Kenny developed several mental health issues, including obsessive-compulsive disorder, Tourette’s syndrome, body dysmorphia and depression with intrusive and suicidal thoughts. Thankfully that’s all behind him now. When asked how he turned it all around, he’s fond of saying that he sat with the shadows that owned him, unlearned the untruths and turned that energy into the fuel to walk his path and live his purpose.

In this show we explored what men fear. We spoke about communication amongst our own sex and between the sexes, toxic masculinity, toxic femininity, relationships and how to make them work. As ever, Kenny dropped some real gold – I loved this episode.

I’d love to know what YOU think about this week’s show. Let’s carry on the conversation… please leave a comment below.

What you’ll learn from this episode:

  • Toxic masculinity comes from fear of humiliation or rejection. Wounded or immature masculinity would be more accurate description than toxic.

  • I loved what Kenny said about “The crap that’s going in your head is worth gold when it comes out of your mouth” So much so, that I shared this with my children at the weekend when my daughter was upset and I was inviting her to share what was going on for her. I used the more child-friendly word ‘rubbish’ instead of ‘crap’.

  • Kenny said: women need to be women in order to receive men as men. I love that, and just to be clear here: it’s not about becoming a stereotypical ‘real’ man or woman, it’s about being a mature men and women who are able to be open, present and responsive, and able to include all aspects of ourselves: the boy, the girl, the masculine and the feminine.

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Lian & Jonathan

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